I’ve been hurt by the church. Is it OK to do church at home, away from others?

“Church” by definition, is with others; it is impossible to do church alone. You can listen to sermons, worship songs alone – but you cannot do church alone! It is like saying you want to
play football, but don’t want to be on a team.

I don’t want to be insensitive to your pain, but I encourage you – with everything within me – to find a church you can join. Not only for your sake, but for the sake of others! You have something to offer as well. Look at all the “one-anothers” in the New Testament – you cannot fulfill these commands unless you are in relationship with other believers in a local church.

And, when you join that church, you will be hurt again. But, it is worth it.

The church is the bride of Christ and all who belong to him are a part of it. Part of belonging to Christ is finding a local expression of his body, the church.


What does the Bible say about marriage between a believer and a non-believer?

It is never a good idea, and it goes directly against the New Testament. 2 Corinthians 6:14 says “Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?” It is God’s will for you to marry a believer.


How does a man honor his wife?

We will be talking about this on Sunday May 28. God’s word to husbands can be summed up by saying “Husbands love your wives as Christ loved the church.” How does Jesus love the church? With sacrificial action. That is a great start for husbands. Sacrifice your agenda to your wife, in love.


As a parent of two daughters who both married women, how should I talk to them about God’s idea about marriage?

First let me say that must be a difficult place to be for you. I am praying that God gives you strength and wisdom.

A question:

Are they open to hearing what the Bible teaches? If so, I would lovingly explain to them what the Bible teaches and why.

If they aren’t open to hearing, I would pray like crazy that they would open their hearts to hear from you.

Here is a link to an article I found that might be helpful as well:


I know it’s tough, but I would also encourage you to do all that you can to keep a good relationship with them, without condoning their choices. I know that isn’t easy, but it is important.


If you are divorced (maybe not your idea) can we be forgiven? Is remarriage adultery?

If you are divorced, it isn’t necessarily a sin. If someone divorced you – against your will – there is no sin on your part, so no forgiveness is needed.

Remarriage is adultery in some cases, and is permitted in others. It depends on the reason for the divorce and if the divorce was before or after conversion to following Jesus.

Since I don’t know your specific situation, I can’t say for sure. Feel free to make an appointment and we can talk this over together.

Here is a great article – and I think you can find your specific answer here.


Do you believe that God created one specific man for one specific woman?

No. God does give us guidelines when choosing a marriage partner (they need to be believers; no same sex partners) but beyond that we need to use wisdom, counsel from people we trust, and time.

If we believe the myth that there is only one person out there for me, what if they make a mistake and marry someone else? What do I do then? This way of thinking is from Hollywood, not the Bible.


Was Jesus married?

No. There is absolutely no evidence of Jesus being married.